“Anybody who’s had a bright future ahead of them sought insight from somebody, somewhere, was a guiding light.”
Every week, Kelvin is proposing an outlook for influencers, with reflections on topics like opening up, healing, making better choices and more.
Hey there, Buddy. Happy Sunday.
After reading an insightful article, now I know that January is National Mentoring Month, and it got me pondering about one of my strongest supporters. I’ve had many, but the strongest is Shane. Actually, he is much more than a mentor to me. He is the head of my buddy system. I call him my strongest supporter because I could go to him no matter what happened to me, particularly after moments of crisis or suffering and he relates to me. He’d always have a call-to-action and be the one to focus my attention on what I learned in the process. #holdmeup
He is the most charismatic, and practical person in my life, and it’s hard to give that credit to anyone else. There are, of course, others. The ones in my head, like Stedman, of course, counselors were, of course. But you know what, it’s been over a decade since I’ve met Shane and since then I’ve been making headway to pass it on - now being a travel companion, of sorts, to the peers in my life, supporting their recovery and effort to be fit inside and out on this wellness journey.
There’s a blog on KelvinPiazza called “It’s Nice To Meet You” It is a trusted reflection, whether you want to share your experience in hospitals and institutions or give hope to the professional still struggling.
Support is important. I want to share with you a pivotal moment in my life. It was the Summer of 2012. I met Shane for lunch in Marina Del Rey to just chat, and while looking in my eyes he asked, “who hurt you?” Stunned, I looked past him, and he responded, “you don’t have to answer that now.” I was sitting there thinking, I don't know. That's when I learned that recovery is all about educating yourself about yourself. Getting to know you.
For people seeking or in recovery, I am no expert on change. I just have my point of view.
Here’s Your Assignment
So this week, think about all the extra addictions picked up on the road to success and name the people, places and things that caused you feelings along the way. Then, identify twelve feelings associated with the word hurt. After processing that, relax. Next, relate your present self to what happened to you in a letter to your future self, and then release all of those feelings in a healthy way of your choice.
I like to let go daily by jumping rope, reading, or writing.
Now I’d like you to share with me your experience, because this is what I have processed: Stedman mentioned you can’t lead anybody else until you lead yourself by working on yourself, and working on yourself, and working on yourself. There's hope in that, that's for sure. No matter what happened. Anybody who’s had a bright future ahead of them sought insight from somebody, somewhere, was a guiding light. Perhaps they weren’t a full-time, consistent supporter in your life, but nobody makes it out here alone.
I want you to think about how you can support somebody in being good at carrying their head around.
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